Another person of integrity inevitably lie, the workplace is no exception. In your work environment, it is also possible to have some of my colleagues lying on any task offerings guarantee a hit. How to understand the psychological principles behind this behavior? When you have to work with liars, how without destroying the relationship between TA clever expose the lies? No matter what culture, lying is to be condemned, but it is still the norm in everyday life. Studies show that Americans on average almost two a day to spread lies. However, others specific to vary widely. In fact, the lie of distribution follows the Pareto Principle: 20% of people said 80 percent of the lie, 80% of people said the remaining 20% ??of the lie. Then, when the suspect lying colleague how would you do? It depends on the type of type of lies and liars you are facing. The first type of liar liar ★: ☆ habitual liar characteristics: creative, high emotional intelligence are two prominent features habitual liar. First, because of moral weakness, they do not think lying is immoral. Second, most people are liars (such as anxiety, fear or worry about) under pressure, while lying veteran or even feel good when you can control the situation also lie - it makes them feel cool. Therefore, studies have shown that people are more likely to lie often admit that they lied:? If you have done nothing wrong, why hide it, if you are faced with habitual liar, the other party may be strong social skills, and quite a brain. For example, neuropsychological studies demonstrated that lying requires higher memory capacity, which is closely associated with IQ. As Swift (in this case the Irish writer Jonathan Swift, "Gulliver's Travels" author) said: "Liar did not realize he was a bear what a great task; to support a lie he needed to invent another 20 lie. "So, Yuanhuang need a strong imagination, especially in and twist the truth when looking for an excuse. Research shows that there is a creative and original thinkers are more likely to lie. Francesca Gino and Dan Ariely points out in their study: "creative personality and creative thinking to make an individual more able to justify their actions, which will lead to unethical behavior." In addition, experts often lie higher emotional intelligence, This allows them to avoid the emotional exchanges show, talking to monitor response and effective control of body language. Lying against the master, the key is not to accurately determine whether they are telling the truth, but to predict their actions. When I say "I love working with you," I might be lying;? However, as long as I continue to pretend enjoyed working with you, then who cares how I really feel for you and if liar trying to distort the objective facts as lie said, "I graduated from Stanford," or "I will complete this project on Monday", once brought to light, their reputation will suffer. So although you sometimes feel obliged to punish liars, but you know, expose the lie itself can work. So habitual liar would like habitually late, like five years after graduation, you have to do is analyze their patterns of behavior, and to develop appropriate countermeasures. And if you want them to stop lying to you, you can gently expose their lies, to tell them what you think they are not so stupid. ★ second class liar: occasional liar ☆ features: insecurity, fear of marginalization seldom lie people have different psychological constructs. Many of them come from the lack of a sense of security lies in. These lies from fear, they can temporarily protect themselves liars. For example, when asked if you know an important figure or whether read a best-selling book, you may be subconsciously answer "yes" to avoid being marginalized. But in fact, in turn, increases your insecurities? - If seen through how to do this will increase your chances of continuing to lie in the future. In this lies behind the insecurity-driven, usually an attempt to obtain the desired position - exaggerate their accomplishments or contributions to a particular work. Such lies are also commonly used to create or maintain close relationships with others: empty promises (promises actually failed to do), or let people treat you as one of us (for A and B at a good relationship pretend to say bad things about) . Deal with insecurity liars, the best way is to make them feel accepted. Due to lack of security and liars for their very demanding, so take the time and effort to compensate for their perfectionism, so that they feel has been recognized. To show them that you appreciate their original look. How to deal with a liar? Whether you want to deal with a master liar or because of lack of security and a liar, and I have a few important reminders. First, remember: Liars is "self-deception" + "deceptive." While most people think that lying is a deliberate distortion of the facts of behavior, but, as Nietzsche said, "The most common lie is a lie to say to yourself; lie to others is relatively is the exception." Whether it is a pathological liar or non-pathological liars have a problem of self-deception. A large number of psychological studies show that people generally "lying for profit, but it can be sincere enough to trick myself believe that he is honest." In addition, the ability to lie and deception capabilities inseparable - if you can not convince yourself, others will be more difficult to persuade. Apply Orwell's words, "If you want to hide a secret, you have hidden themselves." When someone in his favor in the direction toward distortion of the facts, lying is not in the strict sense of that, but just can not or will not see the truth. In this case, the key is to help each other to look at the issue from another angle. Truth may give a self-inflicted injury, caused great psychological burden. Like Diderot pointed out: "We will greedily swallow those insincere flattery, but only a small mouth sipping bitter truth." Prior to a colleague accused of lying, ask yourself: he is deliberately misleading, or just sincerely believe misconceptions. The second piece of advice: Not all lies are unethical. In fact, a lie might benefit society, such as "ah, this is really delicious!" Or "Your new boyfriend looks like a nice guy," or "Do you wear that really nice." Lies may also be moral, such as when the Nazis knock asked whether Jews hiding in the attic when. This is why adults to teach children to understand white lie, and tell lies within certain limits; this is why a lot of people, "wine there is truth." Indeed, normal social interaction usually requires individuals have the ability to hide their feelings. Complete honesty may be expressed as a non-moral selfishness. Self-control is a moral force to promote social or welfare of others, neither will limit dishonesty will limit excessive honesty. When others lie to us we can easily unhappy. But there are many dishonest motive to lie also different. There lies the way to deal with a lot. Yes, become the object of deception may make you feel insulted, but the emotional or confrontational reactions may be counterproductive. A better solution is to politely tell the liars they did not deceive you; or meter on the meter, to pretend that you cheated, and this in turn has cheated each other. Article from the work circle: http: //www.jobsalon.net/